I find it useful to always use a quiet box (or boxes if it's going to be a "big" or very detailed inspection) for any frame not in its box or my hands. I cover up every open box with a political sign, unless my hands are in it. these two steps seem to keep the bees quiet and calm(er.)
And I generally work the bottom box first, not down through the top box(es). I remove and restack (close by) the upper boxes - work the bottom one, then move the next-up one back on top of the bottom one for whatever work I plan to to in it, and so on. My stacks are, at their smallest, three deep boxes, plus a medium pollen box as the lowest one, though that one almost never needs more than cursory attention.
And a I rarely go to the trouble of looking at all the frames in a box. I pull the second or third one from the outside out , and then look at a further 4 or 5, then call it a day. So, I am basically looking at the middle-ish frames, not the exterior ones in my 10-frame boxes.
I was very stressed by working the bees at first - I dreaded having to do it actually. But I found, over time, that my deep curiosity about their fascinating lives overcame that stress. Now I find it, if it's not actually relaxing, it's at least so intensely focused that it clears my mind in a way I look forward to. The times I go back to being stressed about are when I know am tardy about checking on them and therefore it is more destructive to get the boxes separated. The key to avoiding that, I think, is to tightly control how many colonies you keep and match that number to your daily life and its other commitments.