Does a virgin queen actually mate with a "male" bee?
I say not.
Concepts like "queen," "male," and "female" are anthropomorphisms.
The drone carries the sperm (gamete) of his mother. He is entirely a creation of his mother. The drone has no father and can have no son.
Although the drone is functionally a male, the virgin queen is actually mating with the mother of the drone.
The entire order Hymenoptera (bees, ants, wasps) is one of the oldest insect orders and probably pre-dates the evolution of "male/female."