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dragonfly
11-29-2009, 08:14 AM
I received a really neat gift on Thanksgiving- it was a little booklet of my grandmother's poetry that my aunt put together. My maternal grandmother died back in 1992 from a bad stroke, following two years of a decline from Alzheimer's disease. My grandmother was never a warm and fuzzy grandma that made cookies and had the grandchildren over to spend the night. She was a stalwart brainy woman who had her share of pain and suffering in her life, and handled it with a matter-of-fact resoluteness. She was the type of woman whom you loved, but never felt close to. I don't think it was her intention, but just her nature.
Anyway, grandma had bouts with uterine and breast cancer relatively early in her life, and survived treatment and lived for another 35 years or so. She also sent her only son off to Annapolis where he started a military career, and he never came back home to live, although he stayed in close contact with her. I think this was very difficult for her.
In her dark times, Grandma wrote poetry, probably to help her cope with the stresses in her life. I was given a copy of Grandma's book of poems on Thanksgiving, and reading through her poems, I can see her in myself, or see myself in her, whatever the case may be. Her heartaches and her loves run parallel to the very things I have written about at various periods of my own life. In reading her words, I feel like I finally understand her because a part of her lives on in me.
Anyway, just wanted to share a few thoughts and this neat gift I received in getting to know my grandmother a little better than I ever did as a child.

cow pollinater
11-29-2009, 03:59 PM
Isn't it interesting how much of who we are is genetic whether we realize it or not...
My relationship with my parents has always been cool at best. They act like they are somewhat ashamed of who I turned out to be but they've never acted surprised that I'm different than them...Like they know exactly what I'm about to say or do and they just sigh and their shoulders droop...:scratch:
I've always felt like the odd man out when I speak my mind(which I'm quite prone to:D) while my parents are so quiet and reserved... As it turns out, I'm the best and worst of both of my grandfathers! An older relative clued me in over the weekend and I had no idea as I never knew one of them and the other died when I was young. My parents know all about ME because they grew up with it. What lucky kids they were!:D

Oldbee
11-29-2009, 04:41 PM
Yes,..if only we could see [when young] those attributes of our grandparents and how they reacted to the world around them.

My grandmother lived on a farm [Wisc.] during the early/late 1950's and really liked all the animals that were involved in the farm life at that time. My ex-wife didn't care/identify about having "pets" around the house.

"Grandma wrote poetry, probably to help her cope with the stresses in her life." -dragonfly.

In some families,...if "grandpa" would know about that, it would have been thrown out as "fantasy" and a "waste of time."

dragonfly
11-29-2009, 05:18 PM
Isn't it interesting how much of who we are is genetic whether we realize it or not...
My relationship with my parents has always been cool at best. They act like they are somewhat ashamed of who I turned out to be but they've never acted surprised that I'm different than them...

Yeah- it was a little uncomfortable at first, reading some of my own thoughts and seeing that she even uses the same stanza formation and rhyming patterns.:eek:

My parents and I have a warm relationship, but I am definitely the prodigal child, and I'm sure they worry about me from time to time. The oldest child usually does have a tendency to stray from the herd though.;)

dragonfly
11-29-2009, 05:20 PM
"Grandma wrote poetry, probably to help her cope with the stresses in her life." -dragonfly.

In some families,...if "grandpa" would know about that, it would have been thrown out as "fantasy" and a "waste of time."

Yeah he probably did think that, but he was a kind and gentle soul, probably just the type be able to handle her.:)